Last week, I got disrespected by a close acquaintance. While my body temperature is rising due to the embarrassment, I’m holding an imaginary response in my head as a rebuttal. And as I am constructing a scene in my head, I can now hold my emotions in check.
For me, constructing imaginary conversations works effectively when I’m trying to assert strong emotions like anger. In doing that, I try to pick a close friend whom I know that can handle emotions properly. Since our friends cannot always be present, having imaginary dialogues with friends is convenient. The friends I pick for my imaginary talks are my close confidants whom I share secrets. They are good listeners.
In my head, I imagine my friend asking me questions like:
1. What happened?
2. How are you feeling.
Afterwards, I respond to them openly and honestly, slowly confiding my darkest emotions. What’s good with picking my closest friends in holding imaginary conversations is that they most certainly know what makes me angry. In that reason, they can empathize with my feelings.
I know it will work with people having strong imagination. The beauty of it is that since we’re just imagining things, it’s not real of course. And since they aren’t real, it’s just fine when you break down during the imaginary talk. But if possible, always try to restrain anger. Since we know that they’re just living in your head momentarily, be open. Another thing is that they won’t ask you for anything like treating them in a restaurant or a merry-go-round ride. So go ahead and create imaginary conversations. Let your imagination run wild.
With regards to the one who offended me, we’re in good terms now. I’ve forgiven him already.